She doesn’t want a boyfriend right now. They are just beer buddies and coffee mates. What am I doing that makes me so irrelevant to others and how can I change it? Why am I not clever as other people? I try to change things with no results.

Anybody had similar experiences, and what do you do about it? I never fit in with those people anyway. People don’t mind if I am around, they seem to actually enjoy my presence so I’m not like a hated villain or anything. In other words, we may be far more likely to notice the one time someone doesn’t invite us out versus the five times they did. I can’t keep a doctor or even a therapist, they all hate me. Invisible in a conventional context … always seconds at work, social & family whatever the occasion they just put up with me. Now I work as a consultant pharmacist but again I don’t get any attention or respect from anybody. All my life i felt unwanted useless ugly and worthless and after being married all those feelings have crept back. Beth same have happened to me I know how hard feels even I am finding solution for this thing? It’s when I expect never to again that I start to blame myself for doing something wrong. I’m not a psychologist, just a person who confronts these social puzzles daily. You must dedicate your life to change. I am chucking that inner voice out the door….go away satan cause me i am awsome! ! I’m stuck. Remember how people at school would gather around a victim and bully them? Someone else out here knows how you feel. Cause that is how I see it, a curse, and a strength at the same time. Hello I always feel lonely when my gf goes out and enjoy her self or she is either on her phone and I’m sat there bored and she’s never off it. I hate that! The women who are just like me in personality type want a white guy with a big beard and tattoos. I have friends I talk to online but as always they are there for a while and then just loose interest.

I hate that I base so much of my self-worth in how other people see me, but I can’t help it. We argue all the time its physically draining. They actually hardly talk to me at all. I am an outcast. I saw it in my parents behavior. Why is nobody else interested in C.S. You cannot resolve anything with someone who refuses to talk to you. I was bullied at school and as an adult i gained some self confidence though i have been damaged so much so that i attract all the nasty people where at some point there true colors comes out and again i am left all alone. I also perceive that most of the time when I attempt to interact with a group of people that I am always the one no one cares to listen too. There is perhaps no more painful thought in the world than that of “nobody likes me.” It’s an easy feeling to indulge and dwell on, a terrible go-to self-attack in low moments when we feel isolated, depressed, anxious or insecure. If a parent thought of us as lazy, helpless or as a troublemaker, for example, we tend to incorporate these attitudes toward ourselves on an unconscious level throughout our lives. It seems my most avid bedtime routine here lately has been, Step 1- put on PJs. So what became of this I gave up ever being too close, that’s not to say I’m unfriendly just extremely independent & quite happy in my own company I won’t waste time to take on anymore hurt. I’m so glad I’m not alone!

Why was it wrong when I said and did that? It tells you that you are fat and ugly and you don’t deserve love.

I try to meet new people but I can’t get past the aquantaince stage.
I am very introverted now and don’t like to be around crowds of people. Sonetimes I feel I’m getting on people’s nurves, if I’m very boring or annoying person. And not be rude but go get it.

I read this kind of stuff over and over again but knowing it does not make the thoughts change. I’m tired of wasting my energy on people who clearly don’t deserve it. Sorry I don’t have time to say more, but I think ‘awesome’ sums it up nicely. There so far have been no women who are just like me in personality type, and I don’t care about dogs, spectator sports, or want to be with a vegetarian. I think I have a deep dark ugliness side that people see and don’t want me around. This isn’t everything that has ever been said or done to me. The problems multiply when they shouldn’t have even started. This has coloured my whole life and my opinion of myself has never been good, Im now middle aged and am socially very much alone with no friends, I dont go to social situations as they make me feel terrible and I have depression, anxiety and suffer from panic attacks regularly. I’ve started to think of myself as some kind of living ghost, which at least puts a slight romantic edge on the loneliness. I see people with bad parents when they should have the kindest and most friendly parents in history. No one ever reaches out to me. When I was younger I was so confident and had nothing but friends but now in my 30’s a lot of that have changed. It’s pathetic, sometimes. This article does an admirably accurate job describing how awful this experience feels emotionally. Well who knows but I do know it’s painful and it hurts always being alone & never having any family. Not sure anymore Reply. Your relationship sounds alot like the last one I was in. Of males, a very large part of the nerdier/more quiet ones suffer from this at least part of their life! an Outsider? I was popular in high school and had a lot of friends but it still bothered me a lot when no one invited me anywhere, I just felt worthless and like they purposely didn’t invite me. Because, if you’re not loved and accepted by the people who claim to care about you, then you have to pretty strong to maintain feelings of self worth, belonging and value.